Shaping Our Lives – Ground Rules (Revised August 2014)

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How we like to do things –

  • Chair invites us to introduce ourselves at the start of the meeting and share anything that would make it easier for us to take part in the meeting.
  • Respect what each person needs to join in the meeting and value that everyone is different and will think differently about things.
  • Respect each other’s personal space. Be polite, including to those not present, and avoid criticising or speaking badly about people. Comment on the issue not the person.
  • Listen, do not interrupt or speak when another person is speaking. If you need to, ask the Chair.
  • Raise your hand if you wish to speak and say your name when invited to speak, or do whatever you can to let others know you wish to speak and are the speaker.
  • Use plain and simple English and use words in full, like Shaping Our Lives instead of SOL.
  • Talk slowly and try not to talk for too long. We understand that for some people it might be necessary for them to speak for a longer time and that is fine.
  • If you do not understand what someone is saying, please ask them to repeat it or explain it. You are probably not the only person who does not understand.
  • Be aware that covering your mouth when speaking might make it difficult for people to read your lips or hear what you say.
  • Try to keep to agreed timings of the meeting
  • In any reports or discussions after the event do not use people’s names when personal things have been discussed, for example when people talk in confidence about something that has happened to them.
  • If you disagree with something someone says, say so either during that meeting or during the next meeting. Do not argue about it outside of the meeting.
  • Try to attend meetings on time; switch off mobile phones or place them on silent mode
  • It is alright to leave the room if you want to for any reason.
  • Speak to the Chair of the meeting if you are concerned that the ground rules are not being met.